The PR for Therapy has been working overtime. Rightfully so, as it’s always been heavily stigmatized among private communities, it would benefit the most. So, how do you even start therapy with a question in mind to ask? not to mention the need to vet both professionalism and ease of communication. You can’t get help for a problem that isn’t being acknowledged by either party. At the same time, knowing you have issues is not enough to dismiss the need for aid. Yet again, affordability when it comes to therapy is not always plausible.
My favorite starting point for introspection is astrology, however, I know the mere mention can send eyes rolling. If you’re open to astrology; cast aside stereotypes and oversimplified horoscopes, and start by reading my article. Having astrology as your starting point will jump start your self-awareness, helping you to navigate your emotions appropriately before diving in.
For those that prefer to jump in headfirst, turn your attention to your family. This is not about pointing fingers, it’s about understanding where grace and growth lie. Think back to your missteps and how they were handled, not just by you, but by your parents/guardians/siblings. Think on how their response was shaped by their ubringing and environment, this is not a pass, all is not forgiven solely because they had a rough life. Processing and acknowledging the past of those who’s care your in creates room for discernment in your future. Your family may never get the chance to live up to your needs in the present, but you can create something better for yourself, and if you choose, you can create something better for your offspring.
Personally, I’m a firm believer that if you decide to have kids, you should be actively working on yourself. A sentiment that has gained some traction and will hopefully become common. People like to through around the phrase “Generational Wealth”, everything is generational, not just money. If you’re religious, it’s referred to as “The sins of the Father.” It could be your grandfather or further up in the line, who knows. You may not even know where your genetic karma comes from, but people make new non-blood-related families every day. As this still aplies to those that grew up in the sysytem, but with the added layer of a gov’t system that may have failed you. Analyze the system; look up social work regulations and statistics. Understand that sometime people are horrible and other times people make horrible decisions, sometimes bound by regulations and societal norms that meant well.
At the end of the day, we have to accept that people couldn’t or wouldn’t do better by us. Now we have to recognize people who exhibit the same signs and choose better support and invest in ourselves. Don’t worry about about a get back because the get back might get You! Compile a list of what you can do for yourself to correct the wrongs; make a list of things you can’t do by yourself and who you’d need to help you. It’s alright not to be surrounded by a large group, you just need people who are genuine, and they may take time to find or trust. Slow and steady wins the race, as they say.
